WHAT'S IN A NAME? AGAIN?

I was in a (LHD-in wimmin-only space) last night,there were several of us lesbian/wimmin in the space.One young womon was very excited about going to a new city to marry her girlfriend of five years, and everyone there seemed very excited for her,in the midst of her conversations she said something that caused everyone to yank their mouths closed,including myself.She said and i quote "you see i am a dog and my girlfriend is a piece of meat".I said i don't get it what do you mean,she said in my country because i am a lesbian they call me a dog, so i figured since i am a dog and dogs like meat my girlfriend has to be meat cause i like her.I asked do you see yourself as a dog? Her response well, that's what they call me so i must be.I said to her because someone gives you a name doesn't mean you have to accept it,most often when someone has a desire to control they will call you whatever to see how effective they have been in naming and controlling you,i also said FORGET what they call you,you do not have to accept it name yourself. She asked why would anyone try and control me i think i am a good womon and i am not out of control, i like girls. One womon in the group said that is why they want to control you to convince you that liking girls is wrong and bad, and that you should not be acting as though you don't know better, and if you don't we will teach you better, first we will rename you, and keep calling you a dog until you are convinced that what you are doing is wrong.Now i said to myself just imagine how many renaming we wimmin have experienced,what do we accept as being real? what have been convinced of that is not real, and not really us? is it really that simple to do an number on our heads bodies and spirits?Who the hell is this THEY? And are we wimmin that easy? And is this what they mean when they say words have power? Some of the wimmin in the group teared-up,the young womon cried, some of the wimmin hugged her, i got pissed off,at who? anyone who tried to control,could i put a face to that anyone? YES.